It’s amazing what hearing your voice will do to my spirit.
You called me up, out of the blue, to tell me about the googly eyes on Overwatch. My heart jumped when I saw your face on the phone; I’m not going to lie, I wondered if I was going to be told that I had no place in your life.
I know that’s a bit defeatist, but I’m low.
So low, that walking through each character, looking at their faces while hearing you laugh on the other end of the phone was, and I say this with all sincerity, the most beautiful sound I’ve heard in a long while.
Jesus, you have no idea what it does to me to simply hear your voice. I’m alive; you’re alive; we’re interacting. It’s the little things and I will not take that for granted. Not now.
You’re pretty pissed at me right now and if I put myself in your shoes, I get why. The cloud you’re in is super thick and I’d be afraid if I couldn’t see what the future holds either. In fact, that’s exactly why I stare at laptop at 2:00 in the morning most nights, just trying to let the anxiety die down enough to shut off my brain and get some sleep.
I worry that you might believe that I don’t love you enough, but that’s so far from the truth I have no idea how to qualify that idea. I’m so tired of the truth being obscured. But would it matter if it wasn’t? Probably not.
You may hate me right now, but here’s my truth:
I love you beyond words. I think about you almost every minute of every day, hoping, somehow, we can get through this without ever having to use the word ‘estranged’. There are times when I’m sitting at my desk, or walking to the restroom that I just shake my head in amazement at where we are. How did we get here? Does it matter? This is the worst place ever for a father to be and I’m in it. This was, legitimately, my worst nightmare and it is my life. I am paralyzed with fear.
I’m here, in this physical place, for you. When I had to leave San Diego, I didn’t want to. I had no job. I had no place to live. The pandemic had shut everything down, including the job market, and San Diego is a notoriously rough place to find work because everyone wants to live there; there’s a large pool of people ready and willing to do what I do, so getting into one of the few jobs available takes a serious act of god. I couldn’t pull it off.
I could have couch surfed for a while, but you flat out told me you didn’t want that. I didn’t either, so that worked out. The best option for me was to temporarily go to the East Coast, away from you, so I could gather my wits, still support you from a distance, and figure out what was next.
You have to understand how much it ripped my heart out to begin that drive. It was horrifying. Debilitating. And I swore I’d be back. So I did. I kept my word. I need you to know that. I kept my word. I did what I said I was going to do. This is important. I’ve been told that I haven’t shown up, that I haven’t kept my word, that I haven’t prioritized, but I have and I did. With the only tools at my disposal, I have attempted to rebuild my life on the fly while being available, present, and supportive in any way I can – or any way you’d let me.
And that’s where I’m at, right now. Providing all the support I can while hoping that some of it seeps through the protective wall you’ve built. Oh, please don’t think I resent that wall. My god, no. I get why. We all need to protect ourselves from hurt and pain and anguish, so we build walls to try as hard as we can to find a quick respite from the wars that rage outside. I understand how it looked and why it hurt so much. Sometimes the best decisions still involve hurting the ones you love most.
I am heartbroken. Totally and completely heartbroken. I’m trying so hard to keep it together but it’s slipping. I don’t know what to do. Every day I tell myself I’m gonna be the best dad I can be today and I swear to god I do my best. You don’t see that today. And that’s ok. You’re alive, you’re breathing, you’re healthy, and you’re growing. Good. This knowledge, at the least, lets me breathe. And that’s all I need.
Reza and I were standing in the kitchen yesterday when she came up to me, dipped her head, and gave me the longest hug she’s allowed since she was about eight years old.
We stood there and swayed for a while as she softly cried, trying not to sniffle and unable to keep the tears at bay. I rested my head on top of hers and closed my own eyes.
“I’m really going to miss you, Dad.”
“I know, baby,” I told her as I stroked her hair. I held her tight, but not tight enough that she’d suffocate.
“I know I don’t say it a lot, but I love you.”
Shh. You don’t have to. I know you do.
“I don’t want you to go, but I know it’s for the best.”
That doesn’t make it hurt any less.
She’s in her room now, sleeping, while I’m packing books and trying hard not to wake her. I have never loved that young woman more than I love her today.
Kobe Bryant died today sitting next to his daughter, Gianna, in a helicopter on their way to a basketball game he was to coach in Thousand Oaks. It was pretty foggy in LA this morning.
I was never a Kobe guy. Hell, I’ve hated the Lakers for years. But the dude was a multi-generational talent and it couldn’t be denied. I’ll say it this way: If he’d played for the Blazers, I’d have watched a whole shit-ton more basketball. I think a lot of people outside the sports world might be having a tough time understanding why those of us in it are stunned and silent, shaking our heads, not quite sure what happened – but this is so random, so out of the blue, so ignominious of a way for one of the most famous people in the world to die that we’re all reaching for a little bit of ground to grasp while the world whirls around us, myself included. This is the NBA’s Princess Diana.
Kobe had four daughters. I have one. I can only imagine how afraid that teenage girl would have been as she fell to the earth. I can only imagine what went through his mind as he held her closer than he’d ever held her before. Did he tell her it was going to be ok? Did he try to get her to look at his eyes? Did he … Did he… Did he…
As we’re taking off to Cancun, Reza’s sitting to my right, next to the window in a cramped row on a Mexican airline and I thought, “If this is the one, I’m glad she’s with me.”
I know it was selfish. Maybe a part of me should have thought “If this is the one, I wish she wasn’t here.” But I didn’t. I thought, “If this is it, I’ll be with her forever.” She laid her head on my shoulder and fell asleep later. I didn’t move a muscle for 45 minutes.
I’m glad they were together, Kobe and Gianna. I’m glad they had each other in that moment. I couldn’t bear the thought of …
I couldn’t bear it. That’s all.
I feel like I’ve been rocked beyond consequence in the last three weeks. It’s the last week of January and my entire perspective on who I am and what I’m doing has shifted, catastrophically. I’m going to have to move to support my child. I can feel it. I don’t know that kind of sacrifice. I’ve never had to think about this possibility before and it’s here, quite literally, before I ever had a chance to pre-process the concept.
But I’m starting to see something forming: An idea of correctness. An inkling of hope. A form and function of future happiness that might be possible if I can bend this to my will. All of a sudden, I feel the same warmth that you feel when the wind stops blowing and you walk out from behind the shadow of the building and the sun waves at you and says, “hey, remember me?” Something possible is coming. I can feel that, too.
So today, after the news, I thought, as a father would, about how he feels about his girl. And we laughed and we giggled and we made jokes, we had dinner after she crossed the line, we played video games and we laughed and we high fived and we were, for a perfect evening, just us.
Reza and her dad. Josh and his daughter. Just as it should be.
A day is going to come, Josh Carley, when the warmth you feel right now, the connection, the effortless lift of positive intention and radiant love, will seem distant, unattainable, forever lost. It is not.
Endure. Square your shoulders to that beast and dare it to take you. Do not look back to today and think, “ah, but if I only knew what was coming I would have never have been so …” Remember today and draw strength. Look the thing in the eye and know that whatever it is, it won’t take today from you.
Sarah is in the kitchen making roast chicken. Reza is on the couch, scrolling through social media. Jon Hopkins’ Recovery is on the needle. I can hardly contain my happiness.
I’ll write a bit more later about the craziness of the last week, but today? This is an important day and it’s been absolutely amazing.
Shit, that was a long title. *shrug*
Wow, ok, where to begin. Reza is currently laying in her bedroom under the ceiling fan being a teenager stroking her social media. Honestly, I don’t mind. It keeps her connected to her friends and some of the things she’s said to them about how cool this trip has been? Well, that’s the heartwarming feedback I know she’ll never directly provide. And you know what? That’s ok, too. It’s the end result that matters.
Reza fell asleep at about 7:00 PM last night (Eastern Time, mind you) and slept until about 8:00 this morning when I not-so-cunningly woke her up to say, hey, let’s get the fuck out of dodge? Travel days, yo. Let’s get to them. So, we drove from Chichén Itzá and the Mayaland Bungalows (which I can’t recommend more; they were super rad in all the ways! Thanks Jason and Eryc!) (More on that in a bit, by the way) down walls, and I mean, absolute walls of thick Mexican jungle on either side of the two-lane highway that got us to Playa del Carmen earlier today. In some places, there was a bit of canopy over the highway itself and I just kept thinking about what it was like for people on horseback or on foot to travel these roads: The peril from every direction means you gotta really want it. I was having a hard time finding the right music though, but found a companion in Fear Inoculum (the track, not the album) which hit at the perfect moment as we came closer to the Caribbean and the storm clouds noticed our arrival.
…. Just like the parking people did. Holy shit, ok, so if you read this and you ever decide to go to Tulum, the ruins themselves, pay attention because this shit was some crazy-ass bullshittery and I don’t want this to happen to you.
So the GPS was sending us to the center of the town of Tulum itself, but I couldn’t imagine what I’d want to see there, being that the focal point is on the cliffs overlooking the ocean, so no. Reroute. We’re cruising down the street, avoiding pedestrians, trucks hauling God-Knows-What, and turn onto the street that leads to the entrance of the ruins, when, I’m not kidding, no less than nine different parking attendants, each with their own red plastic flag waving hysterically, fucking screaming at me like I was offending their religion in some way. My first thought was that I had turned down a forbidden street, that I’d missed a sign saying that cars weren’t allowed, or that I was literally going to be the cause of the Mayan apocalypse. No joke. It was fucking terrifying.
I froze. The one guy I finally asked what I needed to do, he motioned me over to an empty space on the curb and then, with his official Tulum guide name tag and speech that he wasn’t about to sell me a time share, sicked Christina on me to give me my options about the three types of tours I was able to purchase. I was fucking incensed. I was cool about her pitch, ’cause I honesty wanted to know my options, but god dammit, if I didn’t almost hit a few of these guys (and girls) with the car, give my child a heart attack, and almost make the entire experience bitter and joyless.
The ruins themselves didn’t have the impact on me that Chichén Itzá did for a number of reasons, first and foremost the highly-monetized and tourist-trap feel of the space. I imagine a number of years ago it wasn’t quite like that, but the tourists who completely ignored the ropes and signs to go sit on the steps of an ancient building or stand at the edge of a cliff like a dumbass soaked it all up with their selfie sticks and influencer poses and I felt diffused. Even the boat ride out on the sea – fucking gorgeous waters, mind you – seemed contrived when you saw the literal dozens of boats out on the reef with tourists by the, well, boatload, pockmarking the teal and tan of shallow water out away from the shoreline. I had no desire to be sequestered with people I could only imagine didn’t give a shit about the history or majesty of the place and only wanted that picture of themselves in their aviators and flat-bills for their Snapchat profile. It bummed me out, so much so, that Reza and I got caught up in the shuffle of each spot that had a glorious photographic opportunity with little to no regard for the reason why we were there.
I told Reza that it was the people that threw me off. She agreed. We both thought that a sunrise expedition inside Tulum would be spectacular, if for nothing but the fact that you might be able to reach out and touch the space, the energy, void of modern trappings that deflect the spiritual waves, forcing care only on toward the ones crashing on the beach below. The sad part is that I didn’t hear that kind of experience as an option. I hope that changes. It felt like a caged jaguar, once imposing, once beautiful, now, a shell of mind and body, simply existing as a reason to point and crow. It deserves better.
Later this evening… oh my fucking god I was hangry with a Capital Fucking H. Reza ate a leftover cheeseburger I picked up for her while she was sleeping last night on the way down here. Me? Fucking hostess donuts. I was starving for real, adult food. Lightheaded, pissy, and exceptionally annoyed, we went to the beach for a bit so she could play in the water. I wish I could have enjoyed that moment a bit more; I know I seemed like a stick in the mud, but dude. (Note to self: Be more upbeat tomorrow. End this trip on a positive note, not a sad bastard downer.)
I found a greek joint that served gyros and the standard fare, but in traditional JC fashion went to the restaurant right next door, ’cause I couldn’t see the signs that were only facing the road. It wasn’t until we sat down did I realize that we were in the wrong spot. Reza knew that asking me to leave and go over there was a bad idea so we managed and frankly, the octopus dish I had was nicely done. Her Lobster Spaghetti though? She wasn’t a fan. Tomorrow, we need to do something more traditional that she’ll chomp and love. After legitimately drinking three fucking bottles of sparkling water, two bread baskets, and an entire appetizer of raw fish – oh, can’t forget the baked fish complimentary apps they gave us – I was finally ready to call myself human again. God damn, that was rough!
So back we came to our AirBnb, which doesn’t hold a candle to Mayaland. How could it? (I promise, more on that later.) We squeezed the car into the parking space that would prevent me from having to figure out how the fuck I was gonna find enough change to keep from getting a parking ticket and came upstairs.
Yeah. Tough day. Tomorrow will be better and I hope more fun for the girl. No doubt she had fun today, but when Dad is in a bad mood, it radiates and I can’t have that tomorrow. I guess if I took up the offers provided by no less than four different street hawkers in a 20 minute span offering weed and cocaine, that might change my perspective? Jesus Fucking Christ. Blew me away.
Speaking of blowing me away. I need to write about Mayaland and Chichén Itzá. But I’m gonna save that for a bit later. Maybe tonight, but a different post. It’s chill time.
Reza, of course, is still asleep. The question is whether she’s still in the hammock. I’mma find out as soon as I’m done here.
A few months back, right at the nadir of my personal relationship with her, I decided that, should she be amenable, we should take a trip together, something that only she and I could experience. I hate to say it was a bonding opportunity, but that’s exactly what it is and was meant to be at the time. But where to go?
Enter Tomb Raider.
We both played the latest Tomb Raider game, and while she finished it before I did, we were both rather captivated and thought, shit, why not there? Mexico is close, it won’t cost a grip of cash, and if she’s even remotely interested in archeological places, then strike while the iron is hot and get her down there right the fuck away. So, voila. Here we are. We landed yesterday.
As I told Ivonne after we landed, Mexican flights are … different. It dawned on me on the way down that this was the first inter-country flight I’d taken outside of the United States. Most other flights have been from the US to somewhere or somewhere back to the US, but never like this and whoa. It’s a trip. Not a bad one, mind you, ’cause opening yourself to new experiences kinda the point of all this but definitely, well, new. No sense of personal space (Reza was sure to comment on this a couple times), none of the passenger protocol we enjoy – holy shit the amount of trash and garbage left on the floor of the plane; everyone immediately making sure their seat backs were not in an upright position; pulling and kicking and tugging and jostling the backs of seats – are employed on a Mexican airline and none of that is derogatory. We are, despite the fact that we spit on each other over the color of our blood, so pampered in the United States. I needed that reminder, and frankly, I think Reza did too.
We crossed the Border Express from Otay Mesa into the Tijuana airport which was pretty fucking rad and convenient, even if you forget to print out your entrance documentation at the counter. Thankfully, we had our passports (Dude. Talk about under the wire for Rez… that shit came with three days to spare. That’s some Indiana Jones biz, right there!) and a quick swipe, a few keystrokes, and boom: Across the bridge, through Customs, through the Volaris bag check line, and kicking it by the gate with a couple hours to spare. It was pretty awesome watching her come back from the bathroom, this almost-adult being goofy and silly and drawing as much attention to herself as she can without getting in trouble for it. She fell asleep on my shoulder a few times during the flight. She held my arm a few times – once on the landing, once just because she could – and I was reminded that these moments, the small ones in-between the monuments, are the heart of the matter.
We waited forever to get our bags here in Cancun and I felt bad that we weren’t driving out to Playa del Carmen today; the kid sitting next to us needed a ride out that way and I totally would have done it, but I was not only waiting for our bag to come off the carousel but I had no idea where the rental car place was. Turns out, thanks to the Payless Rental Car guy who called them for me but then had his kindness repaid by me not taking them up on their offer of a much cheaper option, the Enterprise location is way off airport. I didn’t realize this, but, now I’m educated. The look on their faces though, when the Enterprise shuttle showed up before their did… it never pays to be kind when you’re a salesman.
We made it to our AirBnB relatively quickly. It’s a small space with two rooms and an aforementioned hammock in the master bedroom which, clearly, Reza had to have. The place doesn’t overlook the beach, nor is it going to win any awards for comfort, but it’s quiet, it’s safe, it’s close to most everything, it seems, as evidenced by the fact that we were able to find a taco shop open at midnight in the Hotel Zone about five minutes from here. We were fucking hangry. Well, almost. Me. I was almost hangry. She was cool. I was … yeah. Anyway.
Food, a quick Oxxo stop with nothing to show for it, and then back to the hotel to settle in and enjoy being three hours ahead of California time once again. I need a Starbucks like whoa… OH! The coffee cups are legit and I’m totally buying all of them. Well, the ones of the places I’ve been, anyway. None of that cheating bullshit.
So now, I’m sitting at this little dining table with the round green placemats, glancing at an overcast sky settling on top of pre-thunderstorm humidity that can’t help but be slightly oppressive, about to wake up Sleeping Beauty back there. It’s time to get on the road: Chichén Itzá awaits.
Yeah, so things are, as is typical, good in places, not-so-good in others.
I’m back from visiting Sarah; got back in Sunday night. That flight isn’t so bad anymore, but I don’t remember it being a full six hours to get back to the West Coast. That shit is like international travel business in that, if you’re on a plane for six, you might as well stick it out for another four and go someplace exotic. I mean, why not?
Word to the wise, though: If you’re gonna book flights for that long, don’t sit in a bulkhead seat. That’d be Row 6, right outside of First Class on Alaska flights.
Reza and I did a bit of hunting for a Christmas tree last night and, believe it or not, couldn’t find a decent janky tree on the lot. The one guy at the lot behind the Observatory on University told us that the SDFD came by a day or so ago and picked out the jankiest tree they could find. Both Reza and I were simultaneously glad and disappointed that someone else is going for the chonk. Booooo, we say. Boooo. But janky trees needs homes, too! Who are we to demand that we get the pick of the litter?
So, we ended up at the Mission Valley Christmas Tree Extravaganza lot which had all the typical Noble, Douglas, and Marked Up Beyond Belief trees that will take more maintenance to keep alive for three weeks than the cost of the tree itself. I am undaunted, however, ’cause I plan on doing some deco tonight and tomorrow to get all up in the Christmas spirit. I wanted to get some garland for my fireplace and the columns between the rooms in my house, but that’s some expensive shit. I think I’ll just wrap them with lights instead.
I’m gonna get Reza a Samsung Chromebook for Christmas, but that’ll be the only “big” gift. This year we’re going to focus on the thoughtful rather than the expensive; she’s at the age where she understands that money isn’t unlimited and both her mom and I feel that with this being the first Christmas post-split, we have an opportunity to instill in her a bit more appreciation for the holiday itself rather than the consumerism behind it. Here’s to hoping it’s a stepping stone to a deeper connection between us.
Looks like I’m in monthly maintenance mode with my therapist now, which is a really good thing for me. I have been able to consistently say, for the past few months or so, that my personal and emotional trajectory has been pointing upward. Sure, there are bumps in the road, but in general, things are going the direction I desire and I’m learning the ways to keep that momentum going. I’m pretty proud of myself, if I’m being honest about it. I’ve done a ton of work and it’s paying off.
Honesty with yourself is harder than it sounds. I have a love/hate relationship with personal truth, as I tend to kick my own ass when I don’t act in accordance with that truth. I have (well, had) a habit of acting counter to my needs to please others; making decisive efforts to avoid that type of thinking is fucking hard, man. But there’s a different type of sadness inside, though, when you address the difficult questions and remain honest with yourself, compared to the layer of personal disappointment I feel when I both avoid the truth and capitulate to prevent that truth from seeing the light of day. It’s a cleaner pain, standing in the light of your own needs.
Visiting Sarah this time around was different in a lot of ways. The reality of our situation is that, because we don’t live close to each other, we’re able to manufacture a reality that doesn’t encompass the whole. I think we’re both struggling with the concept of that reality right now – how real it is, what the future holds, and what comes next. We’re both very much anchored to our current lives – where we live and why – and there’s no short or long-term visibility into how that might change. On one hand, there’s nothing wrong with enjoying the moment and letting it fulfill you in ways that you require. On the other, you have to step back and determine if that’s sustainable. We’re struggling with the sustainability part right now and that’s natural. It’s not fun, but it’s part of the process. As shitty as it is to work through that difficulty, I’d rather do it with an honest perspective of my own needs and abilities rather than promise something I can’t deliver: The fact is that we don’t know how we can pull this off long-term without a clear path forward. She told me this morning she doesn’t do well with the unknown. She’s not alone.
So, we’ll see where this lands. I think we’re both good at addressing the hard questions and figuring out what we need to do. Fuck, I wish she lived here. It wouldn’t solve all problems, surely, but it’d address the biggest one, the only one that seems to be in our way.
Alright. I gotta get to work. Gotta call vendors, get people paid, all that fun stuff.
Evening Update –
Reza had to work through some personal friendship issues today and it was pretty heartbreaking to watch. I tried to support her as best I could, listening, letting her vent, giving her that shoulder to cry on. Just being Dad.
She just sat down to finish watching the movie she stopped last night and said, furtively, “It’s no secret that our relationship has been pretty shitty, but I feel we’ve had a breakthrough.” I asked her if she meant this friend that hurt her. She said no, she meant me. “I feel that I can trust you with details about my personal life, so… yeah.”
I thanked her, trying to keep my cool, but inside? Fireworks.
My new office chair arrived today. Reza asked about how much it cost and I lied to her, told her it was cheaper than it actually was. She’s been very money conscious lately and the last thing I wanted her to do was to compare and contrast against the space her mom is in. Not that it’s bad, don’t get me wrong. Ivonne lives in a cute little apartment in mid-city by the airport, but she’s in a space of transition right now and that has Reza a bit on edge. I project a bit of what I think she might be feeling onto the situation, I admit, but I don’t think that allaying her fears is a bad thing right now.
I’m heading to New Hampshire tomorrow for a long weekend; I’ll be back Sunday. I don’t get to go out there as often as I’d like, but we try to make the most of it when I’m there, Sarah and me. I have to get up at 6:00 and I think I’m done packing, but I’ve gotta do the dishes real quick, ’cause the last thing I wanna come home to is a sink full of five-day-old unwashed bowls. No thanks.
But, I’m heading to the tundra. They got a couple feet of snow the last few days, so it’s straight up Winter Wonderland steez. I’m in.
I got my last assignment submitted for my Intermediate Creative Writing class today. The one thing that bummed me out about this class was the lack of legit critique. I get it – you want to build a community where peer feedback becomes your signposts – but let’s be honest, some of these people couldn’t write themselves out of a paper bag, Anne Rice style. You won’t remember the details when you look back on this, but this one chick straight up wrote the worst romance novel bullshittery you’d ever read. It was absolutely, insanely awesome. I gotta give her props for writing what she wanted. You go, crazy romance lady.
I still don’t think you write about a woman’s love handles, but that’s just me.
I finished the last few episodes of Parks and Rec tonight and why the hell did that show fuck me up the way it did? The last season was funny as shit, but damn, with the feels. Fuck. I’ve been pretty sensitive the last couple days but it’s legit a good show and got me in the strings.
I sent Stats the vox demo of a track we’re working on. I’m not convinced he’s into it or that I think its the right direction for that music, to be honest. Can it be better? Am I psyching myself out that it’s not? I hate this part of the creative process, when you can’t help but shit on it. I guarantee, though, that if I sat on it for a year, went back and listened to it, I’d wonder why the fuck I didn’t do anything with it. So, sit on it, homie – just for a few days – and get back and finish it. You’ve got a great thing going here and this might be your last chance. Make it happen.
It was a bit gloomy today. Six packs of tortillas to bring to East Coast friends couldn’t lift the clouds, but they have a way of parting just when you need them to.
Reza went to bed on her own tonight. I checked in on her at about 10 and she was passed the fuck out. Getting up early, lots of Physical Education (she won’t stop bitching about her knees! ahahahahahah) and comfort can do that to a kid. She’s going to her mom’s tomorrow, though, and I’m not gonna lie, I get real used to having her around. I went through a real transition phase where I was embracing the solo time, and that’s not a bad thing. I needed to get my head on straight. I’m gonna miss her when I’m gone, but I’ll have her for a couple days when I get home. I’ll be glad when we do this week-on-week-off schedule; just means I won’t be home alone by myself as much ’cause I’ll be able to travel for work. For the time being, anyway. But we went clothes shopping the other day and I dunno man, time is flying. It’s going to fast and you can’t keep up and as hard as you try she’s getting older and she’s not going to need us anymore.
Maybe that’s the thing. I always knew I’d be a good dad, but not the let’s-go-build-a-treehouse or …
I have a lot of regrets. Let’s just leave it at that for now.
Anyway, back to today. It was a good day, looking back. I got everything done I needed to do, I’m taking off to see my girl tomorrow, Reza is comfortably asleep in her room and I’m a really lucky person, believe it or not.
I think the end of this month is gonna be hard. I should have expected it, but it just kinda hit me out of the blue. It took years for me to get to the point that late March didn’t turn me into a werewolf and I’m afraid this one – this series of years, I mean – is gonna be just as bad. No telling, really, until it’s over.
I’m just feeling especially nostalgic and wistful. I miss Iceland. I stood on top of that promontory overlooking the glacier and it was just me, so small, so infantile next to the overwhelming brilliance of this blue river of ice. I felt so small, so alone, so alive.
This doesn’t feel like a depression, though. This feels different. Like an especially difficult day of molting.