This is my space, to travel within as I chose.  Tread my fields with caution, for there are most definitely snakes in the grass.   You have been warned.


March, 2008

I missed seeing Jared again, for the second time in as many trips. He’s vanished off to Minnesota to court a girl, marry her, and go to Ecuador to “serve where the need is greater.” Jake, Jason and I had separate conversations about this, and while their disappointment with his choices are evident, what bothers them the most is the apparent abandonment of the blood ties. If anything, that makes me feel that regardless of the gaps between our own relationships, all hope is not lost.  

Jared has chosen a lifestyle that the rest of us rejected. His lifestyle requires complete and total commitment, even to the point of turning your back on blood when it’s perceived as poisonous. I do not blame him – if what my mother says is true, and that’s to be debated – Jared’s ideas that he’s fragmented from his family have been filled with the unconditional love from another kind. If he fills whatever voids he has with Religion, who am I to blame him? I’ve made my choices and so has he. I’m very very proud of him, and because he’s my brother I will always love him unconditionally, even if it doesn’t matter so much to him as it does to me. I’m just glad he’s happy and living his live to the fullest. There aren’t many people who can say that.  

What I never want him to think, though, is that i’m not proud of him. I won’t ridicule or persecute him for his choices. In fact, to specifically choose a life harder than others based on the faith that you’ll be rewarded by a god that the rest of your siblings either can’t comprehend or don’t believe exists is to be complimented, not opposed. But I don’t think he understands that yet. 

So I have to keep trying. Doctrine is not blood, but it can be just as thick sometimes, and I love him regardless.


Death makes martyrs of the most abject of sinners.  The mother of the poacher hung at a crossroads is no less a mother who loved her son, a mother who saw him play, fight, love, weep and grow into the man that made decisions with dire implications.  It’s a lesson I try to teach Reza every day:  there are no punishments, only consequences.

Death glosses over and fills the cracks of imperfection, of hurts, regrets, attitudes and confrontation.  Arguments that seemed so valid on a dense summer afternoon hold no weight in the failing light of an early winter evening.  You wonder why you had them, where they went, what the point was…   Did the seed of doubt grow?  Did it plant in places that I could never see – and would never see?

Death silences the retort, quells the argument, cements the frustration in time like a tar pit that will spit out the collected bones a hundred thousand years from now.  And still we rage against the inexorable sink.


Jared died on Friday morning in a remote village in the Guyanese jungle called Monkey Mountain.  I don’t even know if you could classify it as a “village”.  Maybe it really is a mountain full of monkeys.  Who knows?  We couldn’t help but laugh at the circumstances and thankfully it lifted the pressure of the phone call a bit and if you can’t find humor in that, well… I guess that means you’re not as fucked up as we are.  I could only hope to have planned that one out, but Jared fell into that one with apparent ease, so more power to him.  He’s managed to finally win the game in perpetuity.  Well played.

We wait in a logistical purgatory and I have a feeling it’s going to be a long wait in this gray land.   I don’t think I want to go into those details, though; It’s not that I don’t care, it’s just that I have no control over them and whatever they are, they’ll be.  If I rage against them, it’ll only cause me more pain and I’ve got enough to deal with.  On the shelf they stay.

There is a spark of light at the center of this, a singularity that burns in the maelstrom of shards that orbit it.  That spark is not him; that spark is the rest of us – what we are and can become – but it’s being overshadowed by all this flying glass that can’t help but shred me if I try to reach in and grasp the only bright spot in all of it:  I am so fucking pissed at him right now and I’ve got every right to be.

I’m already tired of the drama this has wrought, and I’m not even talking about the logistics of getting him back to the States.  I realize completely that my frustration and angst is being created by a preconceived notions and opinions, and my insistence on having them is causing me pain, but I want to feel it.  I want to rage against it.  I want to fly the bold, unadulterated flag of the used and scream “Injustice!” from the scaffolds because it’s a god damned travesty that we’re being taken for a motherfucking ride – and we’re driving the god damned bus.  


One night I’m walking with Jon and his girlfriend and we were all pretty drunk and for some reason,  Jaqueline hauled off and slapped me in the face as hard as she could.  I mean, WHAP.  It had been years since I’d been slapped like that:  a full-bore, open-handed, Fuck You slap.  We were playing around, it wasn’t because she was being lame or I was being a dick, it was all in good fun but it was hard and I remember thinking, “Well shit.  I guess that ends that,” and we went on with our evening.

Imagine being slapped in the face as hard as could be over and over and over again, allowing it to happen, justifying it under the guise of “Well, it’s a noble slap,” and loving it.  When the slapping is done, one of two things happen:  Either you miss the slapping – and even begin to identify with the slapper – or you wake up and realize, wait a minute, that fucking hurt all this time!

Yeah.  That Fucking Hurt All This Time.

There was a video posted of a speech he made at a going-away party that was thrown prior to his leaving for Guyana the first time.  “My family isn’t in the truth,” he pined, “and when I was growing up, they really didn’t bother themselves too much with me, let me do whatever I wanted to do, so the congregation really became my family; they disciplined me, they looked after me, they taught me everything I needed to know…”

Slap.  Ok.

From a conversation in Facebook about work – my work, his work, both IT related – and how, while I’m part of Executive Management, it’s not something he felt he was quite suited for:  “…Family on the other hand actually matters, its one of the few things in this world worth pursuing.”

So where were you?

From a later conversation in which he was totally going off about things he really had no business going off about:  “Just because I don’t believe the same things as you do doesn’t mean I don’t value your beliefs,” I said.

“I appreciate that.”

We went on:

Jared Carley

My stand (on his spirituality, his existence as one of Jehovah’s Witnesses) is permanent. I have seen so much that of all the witnesses I have the least excuse to leave. I wonder if Jake understands that. Will his hatred for religion preclude coexistance with me? 

Josh Carley

I think he understands it but doesn’t like it. And that’s ok. The question is whether or not you want to have a relationship with him knowing how he feels about religion. The question isn’t whether he’ll have a relationship with you. I think he’s shown – in his own way – that he wants to. But he also knows how Witnesses feel about associating with people outside the organization. If you want to coexist with him – any of us, really – we realize it has to be within the confines of what your conscience will allow. 

That’s part of it. The other part is that he doesn’t know me. I never call or text anyone. Its not personal its just different. I also don’t have a lot of time to call or text people. I don’t mind associating. The reasoning behind association doesn’t apply to family unless they are disfellowshipped. I really have no issues talking to anyone of you. But my whole life is the truth. How personal can it really get if I have to restrict my conversation to things that interest Jake, how many things that interest Jake can I really converse about? Its sad but there is a barrier that is mostly unavoidable.  (Josh Note – bolding is mine)  I’m personally a very isolated person. When I go from place to place I don’t take anyone with me and in short time my friends stop texting and calling. It happens. Its just life.


Josh Carley

Good points. I’m not sure how that’s bridged, frankly. I mean, you and I having this discussion is a good thing ’cause it gives me insight into where your head is so that we can find that common ground. The difference is that I know being a Witness is your life and I’m not going to dissuade you or make you feel that it’s not a valuable life choice. The difference is that we both have to be willing to dance to each other’s tune just enough to respect that position and forge a relationship within it. Jake, on the other hand, takes it personally and sees it as an affront to the familial brotherhood bond. Gotta remember that from his perspective, nothing else is more important. So for you to put a religion (any religion, for that matter) before your familial responsibility (or his perception of that responsibility, I should say) is offensive. Not saying he’s right, but that’s the perspective. Now, couple that with your inability to beat around the bush, then, well, that’s gas on a fire.


I probably shouldn’t have spoken for Jake, but Jared’s asking and if I can help him understand someone else’s perspective – assuming he really wanted to have a relationship with Jake – then maybe it’ll be a conduit to better days?  But I digress.

On one hand he’s saying that he’s got no problem associating with any of us, but then says he’s got nothing to talk to us about.  Why not try? Why not reach out and put your personal beliefs aside and find a common ground?  It’s possible.  Really.  You know how I know it works?  Because I fucking did it.  I put myself out there so many times to say, ‘Hey, man, I know you feel like you’re alone and nobody loves you and nobody sees your plight and nobody cares, but I do.  I’m here.  You wanna talk?  What’s new in your world?  Talk to me about being a Witness, I won’t harp on it or think it’s uncool.  As a matter of fact, I’m proud of you!  I tell every Witness that comes to my door that you’re a Ministerial Servant – right before I tell them I disassociated myself from the organization.  We can find something to talk about. We can have a bond.  Somewhere?  Right?’


Josh Carley

The isolation you describe is fully understandable. You are committed and that’s all you have time for. I respect that. I accept that and dude, I’m proud of you. I think I speak for all of us though when I say that we miss you and want to be a part of your life somehow. If you live a solitary life, I think all of us want to know that you feel you can rely on us. 

Josh Carley

The challenge you face is the fact that we know how people outside of the truth are viewed and we – myself included – tend to get defensive of that. That’s not on you, that’s our issues. What we’d need from you is reassurance that in some form or fashion, you value our place in your life. But that’s conversive as well, right? We’d need to be respectful of your position, your goals and aspirations, what you find important. It’s not easy, but it can be done.

I opened the door.  Wide fucking open.  Nothing.

This is just one conversation hashed out for posterity over years of the same kind of verbal reassurances I gave him, that we wanted to be a part of his life that was met with absolutely no reciprocity.  If a hand is reaching out to you in friendship and love, you have a choice to make.  YOU have the choice to make, because I already made mine.

My conscience is clear.


But what if he didn’t want to have a relationship with me?  Is it really all that bad?

Case in point:  Of my own volition and with full awareness, I have no relationship with my half-sister.  She’s never offended me, we’ve never had a ‘falling out’, we’ve never had a knock-down drag-out fight – because there was nothing to fight about.  There’s nothing from which to fall out.  It simply doesn’t exist.

She’s tried.  She’s approached me about “fixing things” and I told her the exact same thing:  There’s nothing to fix.  Now, if we’re going to attempt to have some sort of relationship, ok, there are terms that need to be understood and agreed upon;  the propensity for the whole thing to turn into a shitshow is very very high and I’m no longer in a place in life that makes me want to dig out.  I just don’t have the stomach for it anymore.  And frankly, I’ve already identified the people to whom I owe allegiance.

One might argue, ‘But you’re hurt about your relationship – or lack thereof – with Jared.  How is this different?’

See, it’s not – and I’ve never claimed it was.  What would be hurtful – not to me, but to the principle – is if, should I die, my half-sister went on a weeping and gnashing of teeth tirade because her beautiful brother is gone.  Endearments toward my beautiful soul, so filled with life, love, and happiness that touched the lives of all of those around me.  The singing of my favorite songs.  The wailing at pictures of all of us together for the very last time, and oh, how we will miss him so.


That’s something I’d expect from my mom, Jason, Jake, Jon, etc… But someone who doesn’t know me?  Who didn’t know Jared? Mourn the possibilities, yes, but to dive in to the opening and take up root where a new plant isn’t needed – or wanted – is offensive to me.  It’s not offensive to others, but it is to me, and I don’t want or need someone to fill the void.  Be supportive to our mother.  Be supportive to Jon when he needs someone to bear the emotional brunt, but ‘the way is shut.  It was made by those who are dead and the dead keep it, until the time comes.  The way is shut.’

I mourned my relationship with Jared years ago.  I came to grips with his loss long before this last Friday.  I held out hope, sure, that maybe I’d say something that would wake him up, but I knew nothing would come of it.  Deep down I knew all along that I was trying to be subversive for the sake of casting doubt – not in an effort to build something new, but simply to tear down.  Because if it had worked and suddenly Jared would have done an about-face, what would I have done?  How would I have reacted?  What would I have gained?

… and therein is written the lost act of the grand performance.


So I’m wary.  And weary.  But I’m in a good place.

Ivonne and Reza have been astounding.  Brett, Tom, Spencer – my personal support system – has been brilliant in every way.

I miss Jason and Jake and Jon.  I’m concerned about my mom.  Justin and Russell will be fine.

I miss Jared, too, but I’ve been missing him for years and this is simply an final extension of an already well-known absence.  I love him, like I love all of my family, and I will mourn his loss, but I’ll mourn his loss in my own way, with my own perspectives, with my own judgements and in my own light while I unconditionally support the family that will need me most.


Oddly enough, I really do hate getting up in the morning… or used to, anyway.  Over the years, I’ve come to appreciate the quieter moments when the rest of the world is still transfixed on subconscious cinema; that moment when the sky starts to brighten just enough to give you that sense of a clean slate.  I don’t know if I could ever make it a habit, but when it happens that I’m up, I tend to really enjoy it.  I was chatting with another producer the other night and he mentioned that with all the things in his life – two kids, full-time job – he found that the best window to afford himself was 5 to 7 AM.  We both remarked at how backward that seems, but sitting here in front of my monitors with zero distractions and an entire day at your fingertips, I can see how that wouldn’t just be convenient but somewhat inspiring.  Hmm.  Might be something to that…

So we’re heading out to Portland today for an extended-extended weekend out of town.  Don’t rob my shit, please.  Technically, I’m not supposed to be off until tomorrow, but damn if I haven’t fucking checked OUT already, so i’m blasting it with piss and leaving a half-day earlier.  I was starting to feel a little antsy, like a getaway was long overdue. I’m looking forward to seeing Stephen and Carolin, Tanner, and of course, Lunchbox.  I miss that dude and I’m glad I live close enough where a jaunt up north is a possibility, not a punchline.

I’m happy to say, though, that things are running rather smoothly ’round these parts.  Tuesday marked four full months of rolling in the booze-free zone and I’m not gonna lie and say it’s been easy, but it hasn’t been hard either.  This weekend will mark an interesting evaluation:  I call it a test, but it’s not really a test, per se, more than it is an assertion.  I see much more positivity in my daily life – how I feel, how I interact with my family, my decision making processes; the idea that I would fuck that up doesn’t sit well with me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t miss a motherfucking Pliny.  *shrug*  Maybe one day, but not today.

I went to a co-worker’s going away party a few weeks ago, during game one or two of the World Series – in which, mind you, I’m bummed the Royals didn’t pull it off… – and it was a standard JC goldmine:  loud bar, lots of sports, compatriots awaiting that moment when it becomes a “thing” and I start pulling my cock out of my pants or giving I Love You speeches and I felt… bored.  Once people realized that I wasn’t going to go off the rails, it turned into something else, something that really had no life to it.  I couldn’t tell if that was -me- or the setting – which has so much to do with conversationability (?) – or if I just wasn’t feeling being out that night, which is also true.  Kinda poignant, though, when one of my co-workers turns to me and says, “I rented the party bus for you and (another co-worker) and BOTH of you guys are playing it cool tonight!  What gives!?”

Just kinda goes to show I feel I’m on the right path for me.

Anyway, I didn’t want to make this post all about this topic, but it’s on my mind and I think people are wondering how I’m doing.  The long and short of it is that I’m doing great.  All pros, no cons – beyond my own selfish passions – and four months of “hey, right on” to show for it.  When drinking culture has played such a large part of your life for so long, it takes a bit to re-arrange your methods; the honeymoon period of “yay me!” wears off and you start to rationalize why it might be ok to get back in the water now and then.  I’m having a tough time with that right now, to be completely honest, but I don’t trust myself to be able to keep my footing.  Just not ready yet.

Ok!  Reza’s up, cats need feeding, I’m caffeinated and gotta shower.

Road trip today?  Don’t mind if I do.


If I could put to paper what you mean to me, then I couldn’t possibly love you enough.

No matter how old you get, you’ll always be my littles.

Happy 8th Birthday, Rez.  Love you so.


Oh man, what a last couple of weeks.   It’s been HECTIC at work but awesome at home and I’m in one of those places where all my loved ones have “something” going on, things I can’t control or help, so it kinda keeps you on edge.  That’s a good thing, though:  I’d rather not lose sight of their needs.  That’d be even worse.

But I’m alive and kicking:  playing The Last of Us and Destiny, mulling over music direction, coming up with really good ideas and moving with them.  Yoga has been awesomely hard, but I -feel- better, if that means anything.  Physically, I’ve never been very limber, but I notice being able to maneuver more, if that makes sense.  Still can’t do that InterVaginal Helicopter Move, though.  Gave Ivonne a cramp last time I tried, so I got a bit more work to do.

Been making lots of positive progress in Melon Space which is really the catalyst to all other things being manageable.  My mom is coming to visit in a few weeks – for the first time in years – and Reza’s birthday is right around the corner.  Chvrches is next week, hockey season starts in 27 days and I’ve got a Football Man Weekend planned with Siebs in in mid-October.  Never mind Thanksgiving with Tom and Sue, plus a possible road trip to Portland in mid November?  Lots of cool stuff going on.

So while it seems boring here in cyberspace, I think that’s a good thing.  Not much to rant about means stability reigns and I’m totally ok with that.

For now, though, I’m going to go home soon, curse at the yoga mat and do one of three things:  Shoot some aliens, watch some Doctor Who and make the bassline I hear in my head.  If I can do all three?  Shitchea.


Ivonne’s told me there have been a number of inquiries into how I’m doing, and I thought, shit, you know what?  I haven’t updated anything in a while, so might as well take a few moments and do just that.


So let’s see, where did we leave off?

Girls were on their way back from SD and we were looking forward to Phase 2 … ok, got it now.

So yeah, that two weeks they were gone was really interesting in all kinds of positive ways; I was -very- happy to see them come home, though.  It’s been a whirlwind since, but again, all in positive ways.  Reza’s back to school now, Ivonne’s dropping into school-day routines and I’m back in the saddle at work, but I really feel like things have made a significant turn for the better in almost every way.

Almost.  I’ll get to that, though.

Getting my head together was super-necessary.  Personal interaction was key to progress.  Gotta keep in mind that I have rarely been by myself my entire life:  Oldest of six, married then divorced by 24, roommates, girlfriends, wife and child.  When I was younger I didn’t really care that I didn’t have personal time in that way, but as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to understand that without personal introspection, there’s no way to know who you really are or what you stand for.  Air pressure initiates breathing and that influence is removed in a vacuum; It’s a good thing to experience now and then.  Not sure how I’m going to work that out in the future though, because I have a thing about feeling guilty for being away from the girls if, under normal circumstances, I could easily do so.  Something I gotta work through.

Music production has come back into full swing… kinda.  I finished the track I was working on when Ivonne was away but only just started a new one yesterday.  While I’m not happy with the delay, I see why it was inevitable.  This is another area where I really need to try to find a balance:  It’s extremely difficult to be an attentive husband and father with cans on your head; It doesn’t feel right to me to come home, throw on shorts, sit down at my studio chair and dive into production.  But at the same time, I’ve gotta figure out when and how to appropriate that time.  Now, I’ll freely admit to playing The Last of Us quite a bit recently – time I could very well be spending in front of my monitors, but I can justify that somewhat in that I can at the very least have a conversation with Ivonne while getting taint-fucked by zombies whereas when I’m writing I have to find that zone, that -place-, and it’s difficult to do with even positive distractions.

Anyway, I’m not in the business of making excuses, mind you, just throwing it all out there.  Bottom line is that I’ve gotta figure this one out ’cause I’ve got goals, things to do, shit to make, asses to rock, etc.

With that in mind, though, I think Ivonne and I are stronger than ever.  I know people are concerned if I’m on the right path, and there’s no doubt that the decisions I’ve made over the last month or so have been the best possible for me, for my family, and the interactions I have with the people I love and respect.  I won’t lie – there’ve been couple times where I’ve really wanted a beer or something, but it’s never been enough to think that it would be a good idea.  Two different things.  The idea sounds awesome, but the reality isn’t in a lot of different ways, first and foremost, I don’t want to tarnish the progress Ivonne and I have made.  She’s really happy with me right now and I’m not into fucking that up for beer.  Sorry.  So, on we go.

Oh!  Yoga!  Before I forget.  I dig yoga, man.  I’m all about it.  I need to do more – to be more diligent about daily (or at least every other day) practice – but Reza’s done it with me the last two times I’ve rocked it and that’s pretty awesome.  She’s really encouraging, too.


So that’s the scoop!  That’s where we are.  It’s a much better place to be, and while there are wrinkles to iron out, I’ve gotta be optimistic about the fact that the big ones aren’t obstacles and the next ones aren’t insurmountable.


My pseudo-bachelorhood ends in 23 hours.  As the girls make their way across the US/Mexico border – hopefully with sanity and contraband intact – I shall take the time to reflect on the last few weeks and see where we find ourselves.

Get on your bikes and ride!


I have missed them terribly, but I needed to check my head in a real and fastidious way.  Granted, it’s not that I couldn’t do that with the girls around, but what a great opportunity to step outside the maelstrom of daily life and recognize what’s important without the constant exertion of what I would consider “normal” pressure; sometimes you need silence to appreciate sound.  I really feel that they’re coming back to a better husband and father, if for nothing but taking small steps toward bigger results, and that perception provides me the impetus to keep doing good things.

I told C yesterday that I’m worried about becoming complacent, about going back to standard habits that may or may not encourage even worse habits.  I don’t believe that line of thinking is indicative of eventuality rather the observation that the possibility exists and that it can be avoided.  It’s like knowing the coast in which we navigate; you can’t see the shoals but they’re there.  I think that’s an important step in and of itself.

That’s not to say that being around my family causes complacency, but we all have a tendency to “get comfortable”, and with that comes the possibility of not working hard toward maintaining movement.  It’s just something to keep in mind.  I like the idea that they’re coming back to something better and I want to keep working toward being better every day.  I want to build on the progress.

So what progress has been made thus far?

I’ve learned how to be happy with imperfection, how to see the positive in making strides rather than creating unattainable goals.  The key there is this:  keep moving and you eventually get there.  Focusing on taking steps rather than achievement means you’re living in the moment and appreciating the beauty of it rather than wondering if – when you ‘get there’ – will it be good enough?

I’ve learned that I’m so super fortunate to have a support system that really understands who I am and what I’m attempting to do.  Restructuring isn’t easy; realigning is painful.  Ivonne, Spencer, Tom and Brett have been invaluable the last few weeks.  I have different relationships with each of them, but they’re all so amazingly valuable in their own ways.

I’ve learned that relationships must be reciprocal.  Empty Calorie relationships – the kind that make you feel full, but really only give you what you think you want – have no emotionally nutritional value whatsoever.  Sure, they feel good because they provide instant gratification, but when the buzz wears off and the party is over, what’s left but a bunch of shit to clean up?  Kinda tired of shoveling shit, you know?  This, in turn, makes me give more of myself so that I’m providing emotional nutrition to my family and friends.  I want people to gravitate toward me for the right reasons, not to binge and leave.  I’m past that now.

I’ve learned that Yoga Fucking Sucks and I’m stoked to keep doing it.

I’ve learned – well, been reminded, really – that music is my place.  It’s a positive space that allows me to be creative and functional in the most positive of ways.  I’d been bastardizing it for a long time, making it a burden rather than an outlet.  It became a form of control that almost ruined relationships rather than a creative bonding agent.  I can’t let that happen again.

Now, all this isn’t to say that all is well.  I’ve got more work to do – like maintaining positive movement, excising toxicity, addressing relationships with other individual people, staying focused, weathering the troughs, all the things that make for the spice of life – but for the first time in a really long time, I’m happy with where I am, with what I’ve accomplished but I’m not daunted with the unknown.

So, TL;DR:  It’s a start and I’m happy – and that’s really fucking cool.  Now I’m ready to get laid like whoa.


So what’s on the docket for tonight:

– Dishes

– Laundry

– General Housekeeping

– Checking the mail, which I haven’t done and Ivonne knows it.

– Vacuuming

– Beating off like twice so I don’t blow her spine out of her back like Predator on the subway.

– If I get all of that done, maybe I’ll go see Lucy….

… or start writing another track.

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I have just two things to say about today’s Yoga lesson.

1.  FUCK

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2.  YOU

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(Those curling-like lunges in there though?  Those were SICK.)

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Yoga Day 2:

1.  It’s easier in that I kinda know what’s coming.1 It’s harder in that I’m trying to do it better.  Bitches.

2.  I hadn’t done the set since before I went down to Tom’s so I was curious as to how I’d hold up.  Two thoughts here:

2a.  Pretty surprised at myself that I forced myself to do it.  There was a moment where I seriously wondered if procrastination was going to win the day.

2b.  Once again, a rather emotional response at the end.  I’ll have to talk to C about that.2

3.  I’m not a morning person, but thanks, Judas, for being a crackhead and waking me up.

4.  I can see how this can be addicting, too.

5.  Fuck you, Yoga.  See you tomorrow.

  1. I see the function and importance of Upward/Downward Facing Dog as a “reset” button, but she went into those pretty quickly in one set and I cursed her name and her children’s name in perpetuity. []
  2. Is it pride?  Is it thankfulness?  Is it appreciation of oneself?  Not sure, but I like it. []
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For Father’s Day, Reza made me one of those tiles you paint and gift.  It’s black and white with a painted black border, a red I Love You and Heart, and a Black Skull.  I put my coffee on it every morning, so it’s doing the job, but I like it better when there’s no cup on it.  It makes me smile.

They’ve been gone a few days short of a week and emotionally it’s felt like much longer. Physically, though, I’ve been busy and focused and with work reconvening this week, I’m sure the next 10 days or so will fly by.  I’m excited.  I know they’re having a good time – not without its challenges, mind you – but it’s been a phenomenal experience for Reza to be around friends and family; Ivonne sent me a few pictures of Reza with Killian at lunch and there’s a very real part of me that feels guilty for taking her from that.  Truth is, though, these moments are special because of infrequency; there’s simply not enough time for Alpha Contention to filigree the impressionable heart.

Oh my.  If that’s wasn’t a projection, not sure what is.

Speaking of headspace:  The last few weeks have been really good.  I’m able to recognize progress – which is good – but I’m also seeing ways that I regress into long-held habits.

For instance:  I’ve got a lot of “things” I need/want to do.  I’m working on one track that’s coming together rather nicely: I feel I’m “behind” a bit, but that’ll be fixed the next couple days.  I’m taking two online classes through Coursera that haven’t received full attention, but I attribute that to being out of town this weekend and all the travel-prep and family time during the beginning of the week.  Now, I’m not sure if these are standard JC excuses, or real incidents that incur acceptable delays, but the difference is that I’m looking forward to forcing myself to make it happen.  I’m seeing the value of the finished product for the first time in a long while.  That’s a really good thing for me.

Now, if only I could talk myself into another yoga session.

Hey, don’t get me wrong:  Physical progression is just as important as mental and emotional foundationalism, but christ if I’m having a hard time throwing the mat back down and doing session number two.  Gonna do it though.  Gotta do it.  Fuck me.  And fuck that bitch telling me to do sideways-facing bat-dog pose like it’s no big deal.  Fuck you, evil whore.  Go ahead, put your forehead back on your shin, see what happens to you.  Bet your pussy smells.

Before all that though, I’m having Big Gay Dinner with Seth tonight.  Sushi anyone?

How apropos.


I’ve needed this, no doubt.  But I miss my girls.  Can’t wait to see their shining faces.

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The girls are gone.  The place is empty.


Dropped right into recording and I agree with Chase when we were discussing the other day:  the first take is always usually the best.  You get that raw, emotional feeling out of it before it becomes a pattern, a cadence, a mechanism.  I’m looking forward to seeing where this one goes.  The goal is to get this done and off to Spenc0r before the girls get home.

I got that shit handled.


Sometimes people get a raw deal.  Sometimes there’s not a fucking thing in the world you can do about it except watch and listen.  Those are the worst times for a friend of those in need or trouble.  I really wish I could help… but yeah.  Nothing I can do but be that guy who, when it’s time to look around for those who can support you, will be right there.  Was all the time.


I know Ivonne’s worried about a lot of things on this trip and a secret little part of her is concerned I’m going to run to the liquor store, pay for a whole bunch of shitty beer with my credit card and pass out on the couch.  I’ve got card in hand, sure, but it’s poised for Carnitas greatness.  Then, I’m coming back here, I’m gonna write some words down and make a badass song.

Wish me luck.  :)